I’m convinced one of the reasons we can’t persuade each other to our side of controversial issues is that most of the time we’re looking through the wrong end of the telescope.
We begin with the controversy itself, which is usually huge and complicated. Often the end-product of years of conditioning. And so our opinions are set in steel-reinforced concrete.
If we could step back first and get the lay of the land, focusing on needs and resources as we see them in our own closeup worlds, finding points of agreement, we’d probably get a lot further with each other.
We also might find that the people we’re disagreeing with have a better argument than we expected.